Hope For A Gen-X Girl Married To A Baby Boomer Boy

It's here! My turn at the Generation NeXt Marriage blog tour has arrived. Reading this book has evoked many feelings: sadness, guilt, excitement, hope and so many others.

I took a chapter that hit close to home (they all did, it was hard choosing ). In Chapter 7, Against All Odds/Media Matters, Tricia hit on some issues that I struggle with. She uses Psalm 101:3 in making a point here: "I will set before my eyes no vile thing". I wish! While I watched less television now than ever, I know the impact of the television shows I watched reaches far into my childhood and encompasses my marriage even now. In an email interview with Tricia, I asked this:

TV was where I gleaned a large part of my “worldly experience”. Love Boat, Fantasy Island, Three’s Company and even soap operas. It gave me a very unrealistic view of adult life but compared to my parents’ distant marriage, was so appealing. I believed what I watched was how the real, normal world lived. Have you found this as well? If so, how have these unrealistic relationships impacted our marriages?

Tricia's response:

I completely agree that this "pretend" relationships molded our thinking. I remember as a young teen being fascinated by Bo and Hope's love affair on Days of Our Lives. They slept together--I thought that's how you showed love! And ... then I did that in my relationships only to find myself heartbroken.

During our formative years it was hard for us to separate reality from television drama. I found myself acting very dramatic over little stuff. I also expected John to act like those romantic guys on television. Forget the fact they are PAID actors who have scriptwriting telling them what to say and directors telling them how to act.

I really helped me to "think through" my expectations.

1. Where did I get ideas from?
2. Are they realistic?
3. What SHOULD my expectations be?
4. How can God help me?

I found that asking God go back and do some "spring cleaning" on all those influences really helped. Life is not drama ... and thank goodness for that!

Asking God to do a spring cleaning of the influences in our lives! I hadn't thought of it that way, and I like it. I always imagined when I was married, I'd wake up in my penthouse apartment, head to my job as a hotel manager (loved that show!). When I got home (still looking as good as when I woke up with all my makeup on) we'd have a martini and head for our vacation. We flew in a little private plane to our secluded island where...well, you know, it's just a fantasy. And while I exaggerate a little, I honestly did think it would be magical all the time.

In this book, Tricia touches on all the biggies, arguing, money, past relationships (ohh the baggage we bring), just to mention a few. Throughout the book she keeps it real, and doesn't tell her readers she has the cure. Each chapter begins with an 80s song, you gotta love that! I couldn't not ask her...which was her favorite? Rick Astley's "Whenever You Need Somebody".

If you haven't already, be sure and click the button on my sidebar, it'll take you to my post with the giveaway. She's letting me give away two of her books, Generation NeXt Marriage and Generation NeXt Parenting--just leave a comment and you're in.

It's not over, oh no. There's more! Tricia wants to hear your stories. How did you meet your husband? Do you have a picture to share? If yes, head over to Love, Gen X Style and fill her in. She'll not only print it on her blog, but the winning story will be published on her newsletter AND you and hubby will be be treated to a dinner for two at a restaurant you pick, up to $50.

Two Books One Lucky Winner Giveaway!

The tour is revved up and hitting the road! I'm pretty excited to share my take on Tricia Goyer's book, Generation NeXt Marriage. I devoured it quickly, relieved I wasn't the only one bringing obstacles to the marriage table. But more about that later when it's my turn on the tour (April 7). Until then, I want to get this fantabulistic giveaway going on! I get to give away both Generation NeXt Parenting and Generation NeXt Marriage.

What do you have to do? Not a lot...just leave a comment on this post letting me know you want to be entered. Using fantabulistic won't get you an extra entry this time, but it will make me smile. On April 10th, I'll use the good old random number generator and draw a lucky reader. If you win, I'll email you so you can let me know where you'd like your two books sent! That's it! Even I could do this. Probably.

For more information on the tour dates, click HERE! And, of course, good luck!

**You know, this would be a great way to come out of lurking and say hello! I'd love it!